My girlfriend is pretty understanding about my fish addiction. I can see she thinks Im nuts but as Dino mentioned I could be doing a lot worse things.
I have a few tricks I use now when buying new fish. When I buy equipment I find it easier to not tell here. Some things are better left untold!!!
My fish trick is: Buy the fish. Bring it home. Open the garage and check to make sure shes not around. Quickly sneak the fish out of the car and into the garage. I wait a few minutes than go inside the house. I give her a kiss than comment on the water being low in one of my tanks. I go back to the garage and grab my fish tank bucket. I casually walk back into the house and fill up the bucket with tank water and return to the garage. I than float the new fish in the bucket for a bit. Than I start mixing bucket water with fish bag water. After 15min I let the fish out of the bag and into the bucket. I than walk calmly back into the house with a full bucket of water (plus fish) and dump him/her into the tank. I than top the tank off with another bucket or 2. I crack up everytime because it works like a charm. The best part is when she sees the new fish in the tank a month later and asks when did I get that fish? I tell her awhile ago. LOL. No lying. Im telling the truth.
My girlfriend was into it at the start aswell but after awhile she became less interested. She knows lots about fish now. I became more interested and maybe a little obsessed with new fish and plants. She than started to see how much I was spending. Now I hide the new fish because its easier that way.The girlfriend and I do everything together, so once I got back into aquariums and got her involved(Explaining everything as I do it, talking fish, letting her pick things out.) she was right into it. Setting everything up with me, going on outings to fish stores, helping with maintenance ect ect (We are even planning a vacation around going to see some fish in the wild). Heck she's even on her way to starting a SW tank before me! This is a great hobby for couples, just got to get everyone involved.
If the tank is big, it makes it easier to sneak them in. Im always getting new Africans and selling old ones so she has a hard time keeping track.lol hahahahaha This is my method as well! My wife does not pay attention to what fishes are in my tanks!
I wish I can do that with the nano tank(fluval or most likely eheim aquastyle) that i'm planing to get this weekend!
We( I and 2 girls) have decided to do pea puffer tank as per other BCA member's suggestion/advice. I got an used Fluval Edge 12 tank from another member. Even before I got out of car, my girls ran to my wife and " we got Alicia's tank!!!" so there goes sneaking(?) the tank in lol. she was ok though. I told 2 small pea puffers and that's it! have not mentioned about eco complete though lolIf the tank is big, it makes it easier to sneak them in. Im always getting new Africans and selling old ones so she has a hard time keeping track.
Good luck with the new tank. Hopefully your trick will work with the nano SW. You could always tell her the coral grew over a couple days. Fish might be a little trickier to sneak in
I think your loved ones should be supportive and understanding about things you're passionate about as long as it's within reason. I've never understood the whole approval from your SO thing. I think they should enjoy seeing you happy and healthy, and if fishkeeping is something that helps you achieve those things, why should they have anything against it?
If a woman ever gives me grief over fishkeeping I don't think she's the one for me, that being said, i'll try not to have more than 15 tanks