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Buy it and hide it from your partner?

  • YES, I do it sooooo often!

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Okay.. I thought I ask this question after tonight!
So what happen is my common law partner / wifey is working till at least 1AM tonight, so I went to buy some plants before I got off work cuz it's in the same mall! HAHA!! Cuz I know she wouldn't let me buy more plants, she rather I grow it all, and trim and trim for months!
So i brought the plants home tonight, planted it all, and she wouldn't be able to do much when she notices it in the morning!! HAHA =) How many of you do that? Like buy livestock/plants/equipment and tell them there's basically no more way of refunding? :rolleyes:
 

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I pretty much tell her when I am going to get something. She is cool with it, knows it's my hobby. Occasionally I will bring something home or swear I 'told' her about it but it's all good.
 

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o_O wow!!
She thinks I over spend =)
Maybe cuz I already have two sports bike I spend on~
Usually it's good for me... but sometimes.. I just rather not say HAHA~
 

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There are some decisions in terms of livestock that Irene has a say in (ie. Wanted Porcupine puffer, Copperband Butterfly, certain types of corals & No venomous fish & no "snake-like" eels)

Otherwise, I don't really "consult" her with my purchases. She trusts that I won't get too crazy or allow myself to get ripped off, so as long as its not going to require another tank to be set up, she's okay with it.

Now, I sometimes buy stuff because Felicia (my LFS visiting buddy) likes it and tells me "Daddy, buy".

Anthony
 

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i keep all livestock purchases under my hat till the wife notices them in the tanks.
she gets very angry when i bring home new fish.
supplies is no problem i just tell her what the fish need and she says go get it.
she understands it is my hobby but knows I'll spend every dime if left go unchecked.
 

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I just buy and tell the other half after i have already purchased the item i wanted(most of the time) LOL....
 

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I tell my wife also, sometimes not right away, but usually pretty quick. Knows it's my hobby and passion, so she's pretty cool with it all....just a lot easier that way and no lies.....besides I never get mad when she buys her wine, new clothes or $120 trips to the beauty salon....lol
 

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Open & honest = 30 yrs so far!!! :D
Best way to keep your best friend, your best friend!!! lol :cool:
Take your lumps when you earn them, she'll respect you a lot more for that. ;)
Cheers!!!! :)
 

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Never have a problem telling my better half.:D....she knows its a addiction kinda like her mento's are :rolleyes:
She may roll her eyes from time to time and stand in the middle of the room evil eyeing all the fish tank paraphernalia :eek: ( sometimes its EVERYWHERE )
Right now I am in the middle of setting up a 180 double stacker in the frontroom and she's kinda okay with that . But the mess and clutter thats EVERTWHERE is her biggest pet peeve.
Once its all set up and the mess gone she will be as happy as a clam :D
Altough I would hesitate bringing home another tank....in the near future ;).
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Its a little bit opposite for as my wife encourages me to get it and I have to be the voice of reason and talk myself out of it.

She does get realy ticked off for me buying a fish or supplies and not like it or not use it after a few weeks.....so hence the voice of reason.
 

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They will find out anyways, so why bother. Too much. i have enough stress in my life. If he can buy Jerseys's and stuff for himself, so can I.
 

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=) I usually go with my partner to buy stuff... but once I get too much or already have too much... i get held back... LOL! Therefore... buy it with a no refund stamp on it =)
 

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hahahah...same place this old dress or this old $300 purse comes from....had it for ages....guess you just never noticed it!

she should just be lucky you dont have a pick up truck...then you'd have a spare tank collection like no one else has....
 

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I never have this problem... since my wife spends 10 times more than I do! In fact she always encourage me to buy more even though she has absolutely no interest in them! LOL
 

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I never have this problem... since my wife spends 10 times more than I do! In fact she always encourage me to buy more even though she has absolutely no interest in them! LOL
Actually, you do have this problem, but it's just in reverse! :D
 

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I figure you may as well tell her as she will figure it out anyway and there are no hard feelings.
 

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If it's smaller, everyday things, hubby and I just have this unspoken agreement that we just get what we want. We discuss bigger purchases. We pay the important bills and trust each other to do our agreed upon parts, then the rest is left for fun. And we're honest about what we buy. But then, we both have pretty good self-control and don't make foolish purchases. He doesn't harass me about my hobbies (fish, gardening, photography, collecting craft supplies *snerk*) and I don't harass him about his hobby (self-funding his efforts to run in nearly every election available). So, I'd say, no, don't hide anything but make sure you're being reasonable when you make a purchase.
 
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